Prostate Massage Beginners Guide

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Remember prostate massage is a journey of exploration so be patient and enjoy the ride!

Prostate massage can give you orgasms beyond what you ever imagined if done properly!  Always make sure that you are calm and relaxed before you begin and that you have at least 30-45 minutes.  I have found that it is good to get used to prostate massage by conducting several solo sessions before you engage in use with a partner.


For your first several sessions take things slow. 


Don’t force it and just get used to the sensation of having the massager inserted.  I also recommend starting out with one of the smaller massagers like the Aneros Helix to give your body time to adjust.  When it hits your prostate in just the “right way” you will know because you will feel a slight amount of pressure and a nice tingling/warm sensation.  When you get started try to be diciplined and not touch your penis.  This will help you focus on the new and unfamiliar sensation of anal and prostate play.

For hygienic purposes wash the prostate massager with warm, soapy water before and after each usage and make sure that you wash the anal region thoroughly before starting.  I have found that the best way to get clean is by using a bidet.  These are inexpensive, easy to use, quick and much less harsh than an enema or even soap.

Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate! Apply adequate lubricant to the anal canal and to the entire massager.  This is very important especially for removal of the massager when you are done.  Over the years I have become much more health conscience  and so I now only use coconut oil as a lubricant.  It is 100% natural and I have no idea what the long term effects of the artificial lubricants are and since you will be putting this in your butt it will be quickly absorbed by your body.

Don’t’ rush. Slowly insert the massager, positioning the perineum tab (P-tab) to press against the area between the anus and the scrotum.


Experiment with positions that work best for you.

I have heard that many people have had success laying on their right side.  However I enjoy using the massager while sitting in a chair.  I position myself so that the massager hangs over the edge of the chair and I have easy access to tug on it lightly or to pull it out and replace with other massagers.

Relax (mentally and physically).  Allow your body to get used to the massager.  Practice deep breathing and release your tension.

Slowly begin to contract the sphincter muscles. The best way to explain this is to contract the muscles that you use to cut off the stream while urinating.  Increase frequency and intensity of the contractions at regular intervals.  I have also found that to intensify the sensations it helps to contract the anus tightly and then relax it but not fully.  Another technique that sometimes works is to do this while the massager is inserted about 3/4 of the way in.

Massages can either be used while stroking the penis or not.  I have heard that in order to achieve the Super O that you should not touch the penis but my best sessions have involved masturbating while the massager was inserted.  After several years I have never come close to the Super O but I do believe it exists as I have gotten to about 50% in my opinion!

Like I said at the beginning, remember to be patient and enjoy the journey.  You are rewiring your brain and before you know it you will be experiencing mind-blowing orgasms that you never thought were possible.


Don’t be afraid to experiment and find out what feels the best for you.

I have found it very enjoyable to use several different massagers and butt plugs at increasingly larger sizes during the same session to achieve earth-shattering orgasms.  Right at the moment of climax try pulling or pushing out the massager or plug or tugging or twisting it slightly to take your orgasm to the next level.

You should also try massagers made of different materials since the various textures can really heighten and intensify the experience.  I enjoy alternating between stainless steel, glass, and silicone toys.  The cool hard sensation of stainless steel against the prostate as my muscles contract and pulsate around it is my favorite.

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